Recently, James posted up a Note in his facebook talking about a single mother patient with end-stage breast cancer who has a 5 year old daughter. She had settle with her daughter adoption before she is in her critical condition. I had saw this patient 3 months ago in the palliative team. At that time, what this patient was planning and doing is all for the benefits of her daughter. She wish to leave for few months more in order to celebrate her daughter birthday. Just before she is going to sleep for a long time, she wish to be discharged with all the supportive machines disconnected so that she can leave a lovely impression to her daughter before she passed away! What a touching real life story decribing how great a mother can be!
Today, I see how bad a daughter in law and children can be! Patient is an old age lady with a fracture of the hip (neck of femur). She needs a surgery and her condition is not encouraging as she had heart problem. So, the risk of anaesthesia will be extremely high. It happens that the daughter in law is the only one there. According to her, she is representing the whole family and she need to ask in details so that she can "REPORT" to the this patient's children. Can't really imagine that she use the word "REPORT" as those children never care about their own mother at all. Probably they are busy. But, I think if they concerns about their mother or loves their mother, they would have come to the hospital to see her condition instead of listening to the great reporter's REPORT! What ashame of this attitude!
Things become more irritating is when we inform her about the risk of anaesthetic, it seems like it doesn't bother her at all. She said she underwent a heart operation 2 years ago and same things had been told to her 2 years ago. Her mother-in-law remains ok after the operation and nothing happened. Come on, I do not expect an old lady will remain as fit as 2 years ago! I am sure she is weak enough then only she slipped down when she try to stand up. If she would had strong enough, sure she wouldn't had fractured her hip.
Sometimes, I really felt that involvement in medical professions does allow me to see more things. It allows me to see how beautiful a human can be and how ugly a human can be! As usual, I do felt that a sense of loves and cares would be good enough to provide sufficient moral supports to the patient.
In certain occasions, we do see patient brought in from nursing home/old-folks home. The funny parts is their children seems to know nothing at all when we tried to get some past-medical history or history of presenting illness. Huh.. really feels that this community needs more LOVES and CARES....
Today, I see how bad a daughter in law and children can be! Patient is an old age lady with a fracture of the hip (neck of femur). She needs a surgery and her condition is not encouraging as she had heart problem. So, the risk of anaesthesia will be extremely high. It happens that the daughter in law is the only one there. According to her, she is representing the whole family and she need to ask in details so that she can "REPORT" to the this patient's children. Can't really imagine that she use the word "REPORT" as those children never care about their own mother at all. Probably they are busy. But, I think if they concerns about their mother or loves their mother, they would have come to the hospital to see her condition instead of listening to the great reporter's REPORT! What ashame of this attitude!
Things become more irritating is when we inform her about the risk of anaesthetic, it seems like it doesn't bother her at all. She said she underwent a heart operation 2 years ago and same things had been told to her 2 years ago. Her mother-in-law remains ok after the operation and nothing happened. Come on, I do not expect an old lady will remain as fit as 2 years ago! I am sure she is weak enough then only she slipped down when she try to stand up. If she would had strong enough, sure she wouldn't had fractured her hip.
Sometimes, I really felt that involvement in medical professions does allow me to see more things. It allows me to see how beautiful a human can be and how ugly a human can be! As usual, I do felt that a sense of loves and cares would be good enough to provide sufficient moral supports to the patient.
In certain occasions, we do see patient brought in from nursing home/old-folks home. The funny parts is their children seems to know nothing at all when we tried to get some past-medical history or history of presenting illness. Huh.. really feels that this community needs more LOVES and CARES....
1 comment:
Ya,i do agree with you that as a doctor we really can meet many different kind of people.Most of the time we can't really do anything to help the patient.As a doctor, do the best to manage our future patient to improve their living quality....
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